It's a Process!

Are you doubting your decision, are you wondering if you tried everything there is to try? Are you afraid that you are giving up on them and they have finally figured out what they had in you and they are ready to do right? Are you considering giving it another shot because you don’t want someone else to benefit from all of your hard work and tears? Are you worried that someone else will come along and they will treat them the way you always wanted to be treated?

If you are and they haven’t given you any reason to doubt your decision… GET OVER IT! If your only reason for questioning letting go is out of your own fear of the unknown LET IT GO! Let's keep it real, If that person has any decency, chances are someone WILL  benefit from your hard work, but it wasn’t in God’s plan for that person to be you.  You have to accept that  there’s nothing you can do to change that!  One thing I believe with all my heart is “Circumstances should NOT affect your loyalty if your goal never changes”.  If someone’s goal is to love, protect, cherish and provide for you nothing should be able to change that.. no temptation, no trial and no obstacle.  So keep in mind that both parties may have been working towards different goals.

I hate to be the one to break this to you, but guess what? There is no quick fix! You will not go to sleep one night, pray for healing and wake up the next morning okay. But, overtime, if you continue to pray and stand firm in your decision, gradually things will get easier.  One thing you must do is ALLOW THE PAIN! Only mask it in public, everyone that shows concern doesn't have your best interest at heart.  Go through the anger, the regret, the crying, the depression, JUST DON’T GO BACK to the person that caused the pain and don’t allow them to hold you back from your future. 

“Every day in life is a test, it’s up to us if it becomes a testimony!”

"Stand Firm, Make a Strong Move & Keep It Moving With Pride"

Closure

Do you find it hard to forgive those who have done you wrong?  When you’re angry at someone do you find all the fancy wording about forgiveness being for you, not the other person, a bit overwhelming? Do you think “how can letting someone off the hook for their actions benefit me more than it does them?” If you answered yes to any of the above, you my friend have a problem…but don’t worry it’s a problem that we have all had at one time or another in our lives.

Personally, I feel the reason so many people have a problem forgiving is because as a society we were programed to want answers to all of our questions.  Why?  When?  Who? Where? Are just a few of the questions most people feel they need answers to before forgiving… the answers to these questions are usually summed up in the word CLOSURE.  Closure is what most people seek before moving on from a situation, but often do not find.  The reason most people find it hard to forgive is because instead of searching for closure they should be opening their eyes to ACCEPTANCE.  The reason acceptance can be more beneficial than closure is because for acceptance you rely on yourself and for closure you rely on others.  

Take a look at your situation, look at  all the facts, and accept the reality of the circumstances!  Do not look to someone else to answer questions you already have the facts to answer.  Expecting someone else to give you closure is equivalent to cheating on an open book test from someone without a book.  You are the only person who knows all the supporting facts of your case so don’t look to someone else to give your closing remarks.

Today My Voices are Accepting…. Accepting all that was, all that is and all that shall be.   

 

Until Next Time

GoodBye Backslidden Condition

Hi, my name is Tasha and I’m a backslider! 

When I say backslider I don’t mean that I’m wilding out... I simply mean that I’m not living my life in a way that is of God.  I’m not reading my bible, going to church and or spending time with God like I should.  When this begins to happen I slowly begin seeing myself become more and more of the flesh and waaaayyy less of the spirit.  Meaning I curse more and I view things in “Tasha Translations” instead of in a positive light.  Don’t get me wrong, I still know that I’m blessed, but I allow small things to overshadow my blessings when it’s more me and less him.  So after a conversation with a good friend of mine and a text from my Uncle whom I love more than he’ll ever know…I woke up this morning and decided that today was the day that I would begin to get back on the right path.

I started my day by reading my ‘Mornings with Jesus’ book and the passage came from Matthew 25:21

  His master replied, "Well done, good and faithful servant!

You have been faithful with a few things;

I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!"  

When things happen to let me know my thoughts are in sync with God’s messages it makes me feel as though confirmation is being sent my way assuring me that I am making the right step. So here I am; AGAIN, ready to take that step in hopes of continuing down a never ending journey of self improvement. Don't be like me and keep overlooking the signs, when God doesn’t get your attention willingly he may force you to pay attention to him...and he always wins!

FAITH STEP: What has Jesus given to you: How can you be more faithful with those “things”?  Pick three of them and work on being more faithful this week.

Today my voices are asking you to join me in this faith step. Let’s say goodbye to the backslidden condition and have a faithful week!

Until Next Time…

The Key to Acknowledgement

The first step is acknowledgement

I recognize that I am lost and that I am aimless roaming through life searching,

            Searching for the unknown, the unseen, the unheard.

I admit that I am in need and that I am unable to fill a void,

            A void of loneliness, of love, of compassion.

I know that I am beautiful inside and out and that I deserve all of my accomplishments,

            Accomplishments of success, of a family, of love.

I realize that I am blessed and that GOD has answered many of my prayers

             Prayers of financial blessings, material blessings, spiritual blessings.

I can identify my faults and I know that there are things that I can change within,

            Change my thoughts, my reactions, my heart.

I understand that no one is perfect and we all fall short

            Short of his word, his hope, and his plan.

These things and more I acknowledge

            NOW WHAT?

I wrote this years ago and never finished it because I could never figure out my next step.  I was stuck and I didn't know why…until now. I've finally realized that I had my NOW WHAT question after the wrong statements.  See its all about placement; being at the right place, at the right time; saying the right words, to the right people; and asking the right questions, when they need to be asked.   

My NOW WHAT then, came from a place of bitterness and strife.  I believed that the world owed me something because of everything that I had been through.  I felt that my life was at a standstill and I wanted something to happen immediately to change that.  I assumed that just because I evaluated my life and acknowledged the compartments of me, that this should have triggered change as a result of my honesty with myself.  But what I didn’t realize is that the key to Acknowledgement is just like an Apology…in order to have a positive effect, it had to come from a sincere heart. It needed to originate from a place whom only intention was to free itself of hurt and pain caused to itself and others.  Not from a place that wanted something in return.  Doing something in hopes for a great return does not show sincerity and it is not deserving of compensation.

So today My Voices are Chanting the answers to NOW WHAT: NOW, you release the pain! NOW, you release the anger! NOW, you forgive! NOW, you release the guilt! NOW, you release the shame! NOW, you release your voice!

Then and only then, will your NOW WHAT be placed in the right direction to bring you to change.

Then and only then, will your NOW WHAT bring you to higher heights and broader opportunities.

Don’t allow your anger and resentment for others to hold you back from where you could be.  

Until Next Time…