What Kind of Friend are You?

I am one of the most stubborn people you’ll ever meet. I speak on things with great passion and I’m very adamant about what I believe to be true. I get loud and sometimes overbearing when trying to make my point. I don’t mean to be this way; it has just become a part of who I am over the years. Being opinionated and strong willed isn’t something that everyone can handle. There are some people that don’t like when someone else’s views don’t coincide with their personal thoughts. I, on the other hand, don’t have a problem agreeing to disagree.

People claim to be "real" and "love realness", but the truth of the matter is, most people don’t want to hear the truth. They want someone to agree with their thoughts and build them up even if they’re wrong and their way of thinking is warped. Personally, I’m not that type of friend, if you ask me a question, I’ll give you my honest answer and feeling on the subject. I will try my best to be mindful of your feelings, but I wont pacify the truth, and I would expect the same in return.

Everyone wants people in their lives for different reasons…to make them look better, feel better and even do better. Personally, I have no problem building another person up, sharing the spotlight or even stepping aside and allowing others to shine. And in the midst I can genuinely be happy for others and their accomplishments. But everyone doesn’t possess this quality.

So often, good people get mixed up with people with bad intentions, and instead of the good rubbing off on the bad it’s usually the other way around. Bad seeds are easily planted and will manifest in your life with great force if you allow it. Don’t allow the ill intentions of others to be the motivating force that makes you change who you are.

So my question to you is… What kind of friend are You? And, What kind do you want? Be the friend that you want to attract, and stop dipping in the lives of people that you don’t care about. If your hateful, be amongst those who show hate. Don’t ruin a good person by pretending to be their friend….its like grass...St. Augustine grass never wins the battle when fighting with wild weeds.

I’ve lost some friends through my journey of life, just by being who I am, but knowing that my heart has always been pure and my intentions were always good is enough for me. I know that I’m a good person and no one will ever be able to make me think otherwise. Anyone that chooses to miss out on all this awesomeness is the one with the problem.

I’m Blessed on Purpose because I was Blessed to be a Blessing !

A Circle or a Ladder…The Choice is Yours

There are different types of people in life…everyone has different motivations, dreams and desires. What I hold dear to me, may not matter to the next person and so on, but that doesn’t take away from the value that it has to me.  In order to associate with people, they shouldn’t have to possess your way of thinking; they only need to be headed in the same direction as you are…the top!  If everyone thinks the same, speaks the same & looks the same, there is no diversity...meaning no one has anything special to offer the other.  You cannot benefit in life by being surrounded by people that have knowledge in the same areas as you.  It’s more beneficial to be surrounded by people with different areas of expertise than you, so you can feed off their knowledge and they do the same.  When this happens you are broadening your horizons.  If everyone is on the same level there will be no advancement in that group of people because they don’t have anyone to help them reach another level in life. It’s like having friends that form a circle instead of friends that form a ladder.  We as people need to be surrounded by all types of people and realize that they all serve a purpose. Please don’t get this confused with being prejudice and only interacting with people you can benefit from.. Its not the same, I’m not talking about using someone, I’m talking about helping someone and helping yourself in the process.

The friends that form a circle are the friends that represent a never-ending cycle of repetitive behavior.  They can either represent friends that bring you down to where you once were and don’t see you at your elevated state or they can be the people that are content in their current position and want you to be the same way.  Not everyone will understand your need to do and be more than you already are.  But don’t let that distract you from where you desire to be, if those type of friends become a hindrance don’t feel bad about leaving them behind.  Not everyone is meant to accompany you on your journey to the top. 

 The friends that form a ladder are the people who are secure with who they are and what they have.  The people who don’t judge you one way or the other for being who you are.  The people at the bottom of the ladder (sort a speak) are there to keep you grounded, the next level is there to show you your progress, the people that are at your level are there to keep you balanced, and the people at the top are there to give you something to look forward to and strive towards!

Now is the time to surround yourself with positive people, positive thoughts and people that can assist, understand and accept where you want to go in life.  The people that matter won’t judge you based on your ambitions or what you’ve accomplished in life.  The people that matter will judge you based off how you treat them.

So today my voices are saying: Don’t feel obligated to keep the same set of friends, but don’t be in a hurry to dismiss the ones that aren’t in the same place as you are in life.

Don’t associate with someone based on what they can offer you, but don’t feel bad that you want to benefit from the knowledge of others.

Don’t live your life based on some one else’s way of thinking, but don't down them for theirs.

Don’t allow the noise of others opinions to drown your inner voices, but don't only associate with those chanting your same tune.

To sing the same song you don't need the same voice…it takes diversity to harmonize! 
Besides…what's an alto without a tenor???

Until Next Time…